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Why is the LDS Church so involved in Family History?


Tuesday, December 1st, 2009

It’s hard to delve into the wild and wonderful world of family history without coming into contact with the members or resources of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, otherwise known as the Mormons. In fact, the LDS Church has been a huge force in the genealogy world for decades. Aside from a huge, state-of-the-art family history library in Salt Lake City, Utah, the LDS Church also has smaller family history centers in many of its meetinghouses where members are encouraged to seek out vital records for their ancestors. Those unfamiliar with the LDS Church may wonder, why the intense dedication to genealogy?

Family history work, as it turns out, is a huge part of Mormon theology. It is no secret that the LDS Church is big on families, but what many do not know is that this devotion goes beyond the grave. Mormons believe that their dead ancestors in the afterlife are just as connected to them as those still living. More importantly, they believe they have an obligation to receive ordinances like baptism on behalf of their dead ancestors in order for them to receive all of the blessings of eternal life to which they are entitled. For Mormons, the dead can’t do this work for themselves; they will be held accountable if they don’t perform this work for their ancestors. Therefore, they are co-dependent on each other for salvation. The living can’t obtain eternal life without assisting their dead ancestors; and, of course, the dead can’t be saved without their help.

That’s where genealogy comes in. In order to perform these saving ordinances, Mormons need their ancestors’ names and vital information.

So there you have it. The LDS Church is devoted to family history because they believe their salvation is riding on it.




Weird Thanksgiving Traditions


Saturday, November 21st, 2009

I’m a big fan of traditions. I believe traditions, for all the bad press they get, are part of the cement that holds families together in the long-term. Like many people, family traditions, especially around the holidays, were a big deal.

Thanksgiving was a big one. We started off the morning watching the Macy’s Thanksgiving Parade. I always helped my mom prepare the turkey- I had a morbid fascination with giblets. Next, we all ran off to the Turkey Bowl, a flag football game with all of our friends and family. People got hurt. People got into shoving matches. Some achieved glory with audacious plays. Others felt the sting of defeat. At the end, we washed it all down with donuts, orange juice, and chocolate milk. Nursing our wounds, we returned to our homes, recounting each spectacular play and continuing the smack talk. Exhausted and famished from three hours of play, we were perfectly primed for a Thanksgiving feast.

We all returned to our homes just long enough to finish preparing pies, deviled eggs, ham, the turkey, stuffing, gravy, cranberry, shrimp cocktail, cakes, and jello. Then we all assembled at our grandfather’s business with a dazzling parade of one dish after another. All was placed on long tables buffet-style- there were far too many of us to sit around one table. A prayer was said and then all of us descended on the food in a truly American display of decadence and gluttony. We had plate after plate- that’s what it took to sample everything. We laughed and talked and sprawled out on the floor with our swollen bellies pointing skyward. Most of the time we would fall asleep. We might wake up and go back for more. By early evening, we were sick of hanging around and stuffing ourselves. So we would go to a local basketball court and play game after game of full-court ball until late that night.

Funny enough, my siblings, my cousins, and I continue these traditions today. In fact, we’re planning on it this Thursday. In a world that is constantly shifting, it connects us to our past and to each other. As we watch our children, we notice it connects them too.

What are your Thanksgiving traditions? How do traditions shape your family?




Albums and heirlooms worth the cost


Tuesday, October 20th, 2009

A multimillion-dollar industry has been built around fancy books to hold your family history in. Multiple websites let you upload your photos and publish them in leatherbound, goldleafed albums, creating something that looks like it came off a coffee table at Barnes & Noble. These books aren’t cheap- but I want to say they’re worth it.

I remember as a child perusing the books on my family’s bookshelf and coming across a book with a heavy leather cover and gold-plating on the corners and spine. Inside, photos of my parents’ wedding and newborn babies, pedigree charts, and important dates had been lovingly placed on each page. On the cover were the words: Book of Remembrance.

I knew instinctively that this book was different. Somehow it was more important than my father’s volumes on Shakespeare or American History. It was the story of our family, and, by its very appearance, it told us that our family was precious.

I hear people gripe about the vanity of purchasing expensive books with exquisite designs and costly binding. But I believe that some things are worth the cost. Flatscreen TVs, smartphones, handbags: not necessarily worth the price. But spending money to tell your children and the world how important your family is to you: always worth it.

I am not saying that expenditure of money can replace real family affection and quality time. But I am saying that we need to put our money into things of lasting value- and our families definitely fall into that category.




5 Things to Get Ready for a Disaster


Wednesday, September 30th, 2009

Disasters seem to be the order of the day on Planet Earth. On any given day, earthquakes big and small are going off around the globe, triggering tsunamis or landslides. Storms bring floods at increasingly frequent rates. Wildfires can reduce neighborhoods and millions of acres to ashes in the space of a few days. Winter storms can close roads and knock out power to whole communities. Indeed, we live on an unpredictable and often dangerous planet.

Although we are helpless to stop these events, we can be prepared for when they occur. We can plan ahead and make sure we have the bare necessities stocked up and close at hand. It won’t guarantee that we won’t be hurt or otherwise affected, but it will help us be ready to take action.

To help you prepare for a disaster, here are 5 things to get you started. Having these things won’t guarantee complete immunity from harm, but they are a really good start. Also, keep in mind that you never know if you will be at home or in the car when disaster strikes. So keep a full-blown version of these items in your home and a small, portable version in your car:

1. Food – Hurricanes and snowstorms have been known to disrupt the food distribution networks that bring food to our grocery stores. Earthquakes or other disasters can leave you stuck in traffic, sometimes with your kids. And nothing can elevate stress and anxiety levels like hunger.

To make sure you and your loved ones stay calm and fed during a crisis, keep at least a few days worth of food in your house and a day’s worth in your car. If you can afford to, build up a well balanced food storage of three months or more. When disasters stretch beyond a few hours, food is the one thing you and your loved ones cannot do without.

2. Water – If there is one thing humans need more than food, it is water. The body can go a few days without food before it shuts down. After a day without water, however, the body simply quits. Don’t make the mistake of thinking that water will always be as widely available as it is now. Earthquakes can shut down water lines. Hurricanes and floods can contaminate water supplies.

Realistically, you want to have a week’s worth of clean fresh water on hand. If you can’t afford a huge 50-gallon barrel, consider reusing milk jugs or 2-liters. They will take up some room in your house, but you will be glad you did.

3. Warm gear – Especially in the wintertime, the human body needs warmth to maintain it s vital systems. Recent snowstorms in the Northeast and Northwest showed just how dangerous the cold can be. Residents without electricity or heating oil froze to death in their homes. A father froze to death in the woods trying to find help for his family who was stranded on a snow-covered mountain road. His wife had to burn the car’s tires to keep the children warm.

During the fall, winter, and spring months, be sure to keep some extra jackets and blankets handy. Windproof and waterproof shells can be especially effective at keeping in body heat and keeping out the cold.

4. Communication – Nothing can be as frightening during a crisis as not knowing what is happening or where your loved ones are. Luckily, most of us carry cell phones, giving us near immediate access to them.

Just remember that in the event of a disaster, too many cell phone calls will clog up the cell networks and render them useless. Using text or IM features can help you get through quicker to the ones you are concerned about. More advanced families may consider using long-range walkie-talkies, which do not depend on cell networks to function.

5. First aid supplies – In the event that someone is hurt, you want the tools on hand to treat their wounds and keep them stabilized until professionals can arrive. Disinfectant, anti-bacterial ointment, bandages, gauze, cotton swabs, aspirin, and burn spray are a good start, and you can usually buy these items together in kits at any big box retailer. Having actual first aid training is a big plus.




Embryos Do the Darnedest Things: Pregnant Woman Conceives Again


Thursday, September 24th, 2009

Children tend to deliver a steady stream of surprises, some pleasant and some not-so-pleasant, after they emerge from the womb. Then again, perhaps just as often, children start delivering surprises before their big premiere. Take this baby in Arkansas, for instance. The mother was several weeks into gestation on one child when she got an unexpected and extremely uncommon surprise: she was pregnant again. That’s right- another baby was conceived in her womb weeks after the first one.

Apparently, this is called superfetation. ‘Super’ indeed.

Other more common reproductive surprises include:

Multiples – “Yeah, you know how you were getting ready for one baby? Well, you’re having eight. Isn’t that wonderful?” As a father of twins, I can tell it is wonderful… after three long years of sleeplessness and high stress.

Gender Oops – “You know how you bought all those pink onesies and painted the room pink and bought the entire Barbie collection? Well, it’s not a girl after all. Of course, that means it’s a boy.” Despite advances in ultrasound tech, this continues to happen.

What surprises have you or someone you know had in conceiving children?